Feeder fetishism can be an unhealthy and exploitative relationship. It is a form of fat fetishism that involves feeding a partner to derive sexual arousal.
Gainers or “feedees” experience erotic pleasure from eating food to the point of extreme fullness, says Vice. This is a common fetish for people who enjoy gaining weight or actively helping others gain weight.
What is a fetish?
A fetish is an obsessive interest in something that others might find unusual or repulsive. A fetish can be sexual or nonsexual, and it can be for an object or a body part. For example, if you have a fetish for feet, you might get pleasure from touching them or even just thinking about them. A fetish can also be for an idea, such as the belief that a certain economic system will solve all society’s problems.
Feederism is one type of fat fetishism, and it’s all about the pleasures that some people derive from eating and weight gain. This fetish involves two people, the feeder and the feedee. The feeder gets pleasure from erotic food and from helping the feedee gain weight. Feeders and feedees usually have a D/s relationship, where the feeder is the Dominant and the feedee is the submissive.
Fetish preferences differ from person to person. They can be for materials, such as rubber, leather or latex, or they could be for particular body parts such as feet, hair or buttocks. They can be for animate objects, such as a doll or a cat, or they can be for inanimate ones like shoes or underwear.
Some experts believe that fetishes develop in adolescence when people start to form positive associations with certain objects and body parts. They might also develop a sexual arousal to these objects as they mature. Other experts think that different individuals simply have a more or less intense liking for particular objects and body parts, just as they have a preference for different foods.
What is a fetish arousal?
Fetish arousal is sexual interest in an object or activity that is not typically associated with sexual gratification. According to research, the most common fetishes involve body parts like feet and toes or a physical attribute such as obesity or extreme height. Other fetishes focus on body fluids such as golden showers (urine), breast milk, and mucus. In addition, fetishes can also involve inanimate objects such as skirts, stockings, shoes, and full-body costumes or medical items like stethoscopes and catheters.
In the feeder fetish community, folks experience erotic pleasure by feeding their partners, or “feedees,” to the point of extreme fullness. This fetish is a subcategory of fat fetishism, which is a sexual attraction to people who are overweight. It can range from a consensual exploration of a larger body by two people to an abusive relationship with one person controlling the feedee.
A sex therapist can help couples learn to communicate about their fetishes, which may improve intimacy and overall sexual satisfaction. A sex therapist can also teach clients new coping skills to manage fetish urges. If a couple feels they are struggling with a problem, a sex therapist can refer them for counseling or other forms of treatment to address underlying mood disorders or hypersexuality. However, it is important to make sure that the fetish is harmless and not an obsession before introducing it into a relationship.
What is a fetish relationship?
Fetishes are a part of everyone’s sexuality, but it can be challenging to talk about them with your partner. Jaime recommends finding a sex-positive community that supports your kinks and learning how to frame them positively. “You might also consider consulting a sex-positive coach or therapist,” she says. “They can help you learn how to communicate your fetishes in ways that are respectful and safe.”
Feederism is an example of fat fetishism, but it differs from other types of body-positive fetishism in one way: for feeders, the pleasure comes not from the fat themselves but the process of gaining weight or helping others gain weight. The gratification can be sexual or non-sexual, but it’s always empowering and all about control. Feeder relationships can range from consensual explorations between two folks who enjoy embracing fatness to unhealthy and exploitative power plays.
Jaime also advises being open and honest about your fetishes with your sexual partner. “Explain that while it may sound weird at first, there’s likely tons of other people who have this kink.” She says bringing humor to the conversation can also be helpful. Most importantly, remember that sex is always a choice, and you can rescind consent at any time. And never engage in anything that feels unsafe or inappropriate.
What is a fetish relationship ethics?
Fetishes can be explored in a variety of ways and while some people may think this is exploitative, it’s important to understand that as long as it’s not illegal and the power dynamics are consensual, then there is no harm. It’s possible to explore your fetish ethically and as long as you communicate with your partners, it can be very rewarding and fulfilling.
Feeding fetish (also known as feederism or the gaining fetish) is part of fat fetishism, but it’s unique in that it focuses on weight gain as sexual gratification. Feeders are those who are turned on by helping and encouraging others to gain weight, often by providing them with food. Feeders can be any size, but it’s usually slimmer people who are interested in helping others become fatter for their own sexual gratification.
The relationship between feeders and feedees can be complex and involve all kinds of power dynamics. Many people believe that feeding fetishes are a form of sadomasochism and that they can be exploitative for both parties involved. Feeding fetishes can also be unhealthy for the people being fed, as it can lead to obesity and chronic health conditions.
However, feeders and feedees argue that their relationships are completely consensual and that they get pleasure from each other’s bodies. Feeders can also be very supportive of their feedees, helping them overcome obstacles and limiting their risky behaviors. For those who do decide to explore this type of fetish, it is important to always be aware of your own boundaries and to seek out an experienced partner.
